I recall one day a friend of my dad’s shared with us a three-step strategy he learned from a member of his family. It spoke logical volumes, and so I wrote it down and kept it. Years later, I am delighted to share it now with you.
I call it “The KFD Method”, after the initials of each step in the process. Let’s examine:
One: Have Knowledge of the Situation.
Before you can take action, you must be properly informed. Avoid relying on heresy and vague sources. Take an unbiased, academic, formal approach to finding the correct information. If you need to interview or interrogate someone, assess them beforehand. A person under pressure or emotional stress is unlikely to provide accurate, truthful information. Narrow down online sources to a specific range and analyze each one.
Two: Feel the Pain of the Problem.
The best action is done out of good faith and conviction of truth, with a determined drive to right a verified wrong. But in many cases the efforts fall short due to a lack of internal connection with the core of the wrongdoing. The greatest drive can only truly come from someone who has been personally afflicted with the same act of wrong. However, this should not deter those who do not fall into this shared-experience category from participating in the effort to resolve the problem. A realistic degree of empathy can be achieved through open-minded but directional conversation.
Three: Do Something to Solve It.
So, you’ve gathered all the adequate knowledge and have heightened your level of empathy. Now you must take action. However, in doing so, there needs to be discipline and wisdom. Part of this wisdom can be gained from the conversations held with the afflicted person, but also goes back to your own levels of self-control. Having a plan in place that is closely guarded and only shared with those who hold an equal or greater level of understanding and empathy is a golden key to success in the efforts to right the wrong. This cautiousness is key because sometimes the aggressor(s) who committed the wrong are often vigilant, and are watchful for any signs of people exposing their speech and actions. Discipline is also key, as heated emotions are the sabotage of proper execution. The truth about difficult situations are not made to be comfortable, so confidence is needed to exercise self-restraint.
With these measures in place, action can then be taken with a higher possibility of success and beneficial results.